It's My Way ... No Highway Option

I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world, or the way you feel that is right for you. It is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you should be.

I believe that statement 100% .  If you in a relationship and you truly love someone then this is the way you need to feel about your significant other.  I see so many people that are in constrictive relationships where they are either trying to change the other person or they are the one that is being persuaded to change.  If you truly love someone you should love them for who they are and respect their unique personality.  They are who they are and no one can honestly change anyone that doesn’t want to change.  Ultimatums are the worst when it comes to a relationship that has the hopes of lasting forever.  Never ever give the person you love an ultimatum because half of the time that person will not satisfy what you really want anyway if you demand it of them.  They have to want to change on their own and for themselves alone.  If you don’t like something about your love then you need to voice you concern and be honest with them.  Let them know that it bothers you and if they change it on their own then that is their choice. But if they continue with those habits that bother you and it is something that you cannot live with then it was just not meant to be with that person.  At least you voiced your opinion and concern about it and they know that it bothers you.  If they are not willing to change then you should end the relationship if you absolutely cannot live with it.  A relationship partly consists of what you are willing to accept about your love.  If you cannot accept that person for who and what they are then you should not waste your time or their time.

Unconditional love is the acceptance of ther person you are with as a whole.  Love that person no matter how they are in any situation.  Understand why they are the way they are, even when they are not what you expect or when they happen to make mistakes.  Nobody is perfect and everyone makes a bad choice once in awhile.  That is life and life is full of unpredictable moments.  You just have to be ready for them and never expect to have anything go as planned.